Some of the most
hassling things are formed due to the lack of trust.
Things house locks,
legal systems and even the concept of money. Although these things were created
to protect us, but I am sure that there were instances that you were certainly
frustrated due to it.
Experiencing a
situation where you were locked out of the house because you forgot your keys
Experiencing a dilemma
between the need to report a crime despite the valid and good nature reason
behind that crime
Experiencing that
bitterness where you had to take up a job because of the money it offered
rather than the satisfaction that you would experience from another job.
If trust existed, we
will not have things like “Monday Blues”, and “jobs” or the need to work would
not have to exist.
But thinking further
ahead, imagine a world with trust, without betrayals, hidden motives, and the
worry that others would give more importance to personal gains as compared to
everyone’s welfare.
Is this not the world
we all want to live in? Is this not what we want for future generations? Is
this not the common aim we all dream off but never had the courage to act
upon?
Yes to build a society
filled with trust is to start trusting others around us, but trust is
definitely difficult as guidelines in the way humans choose to trust is not
even trustworthy on its own.
In a situation, where
we first meet someone, humans are conditioned to trust another based on the
millisecond. We tend to trust someone based on faces, based on authority and
based on reputation. However, these have been proven as unreliable estimates of
identifying a trustworthy individual.
With a situation,
where we know another pretty well, trust is still measured on the basis of a
gamble. It is still seen as an investment, as time and environment can change
the way others trust us and the way we trust others. Hence, trust is a
continuous and ever changing process.
The unreliable and
dynamic nature of trust has indeed made trusting very strenuous on us.
Fortunately, not all
hope is lost, as the perplexing nature of trust can be reduced.
Strategies to counter complicated TRUST
Know how you choose to trust a person
Everyone has different
ways to determine a trustworthy person, identify what is it the main key that
allows you to direct your empathy towards others. Is it certain
characteristics, values, education, etc? This allows you to work on and widen
your scope to trust others, working upon the weaknesses and strengths of how
you trust others.
Be Transparent
Being clear and as
white as a sheet of paper makes it easier not only for others to trust you but
also easier for you to trust yourself. The key step to trusting others begins
with trusting yourself first. When you are not transparent, you yourself will get
confused with your own actions, leading to self-doubt. This self-doubt would in
turn cause you to doubt others as well.
Give others a second chance
With forgiveness, more
trust will be developed. Forgiving benefits both sides. It means accepting the
mistakes of others, allowing them to enhance their trust in you as you are able
to accept their shortcomings. While when those vulnerability and weaknesses are
shown, it also makes yourself easier to trust them as you know they are just
like you too, imperfect. Studies have shown that forgiveness is the key to
building, forming and maintaining long term relationships.
"Having the simplest trust, create Legends"
