HeartSG Blogs: Dependability

Dependability is the character trait of being reliable and trustworthy.


Dependability is to know that you can be relied on. This creates a sense of personal self-worth and value. It serves as a basis that gains respect and admiration from others. This facilitates the process of having quality relationships that enhances fulfills a great aspect of our lives.



The downside to dependability is when this dependability of you is taken for granted. Whereby your actions of assistance becomes expected of you and that extra effort you put in to be dependable is not recognized anymore. This ultimately causes you to feel burnout, and inhibits that motivation and drive of dependability. Furthermore, this insight of dependability can affect others as well as it may inhibit their path of growth and independence.


Nonetheless this downside of dependability can be minimized through actions like honoring your contributions or taking the effort to delegate responsibilities before you start any joint projects.


Dependability, no matter its drawbacks, still has its worth in developing it in every individual.

Can you imagine a world without dependability?
Let’s strive to be dependable individuals today!


3 approaches to make yourself more dependable

Being consistent


Your words and actions should correspond. Dependable people talk the talk and walk the walk. One cannot be dependable if his or her words are not in line with their actions. How can another really place full trust in an individual that does not keep their promises, lie or practices hypocrisy? Yes it is not easy to be 100% consistent, but we can start from small steps. For example, putting in the effort to be punctual for a casual outing, or if you promised yourself to clean up your room today, don’t procrastinate and do it as scheduled.   
Assume responsibilities


Dependable people usually take the initiative to allow others to depend on them. This is especially helpful when those who need help find it hard to voice out their problems or difficulties. Taking the first step allows those who need someone to depend on, see the genuine, helpful and authentic nature of a person. Words are not necessarily needed to express your dependability.

Step up to the challenge


When we face obstacles that hinder our path towards dependability, we shall not back down. As mentioned, dependable people requires consistency. If one gives up easily, gives in to temptations, or unable to deal with unforeseen, new challenges, it is tough to maintain reliability. Without reliability, there will be no trust and ultimately leading to the lack of dependability. Show that fearless courage, and accept any challenge that comes your way. 


The ability of dependability is one of the strongest drive gives one a purpose.

- The strength for parents to support their children
- The strength for bosses to defend their subordinates  
- The strength for the government to fight for the people

"Having the simplest dependability, create Legends"


HeartSGBlogs: Simplicity


A famous quote from Confucius- “Life is really simple, but we insists on making it complicated.”


This is supported by scientific studies as well, with the phenomenon of complexity bias. Complexity bias is the belief that complex solutions are better than simple ones.


We tend to look at our problems in a complex manner or over complicate it because it justifies the act of running/escaping from the problem. The harder it is, the easier to convince ourselves to let go of that responsibility. 


We seek complexity as we like novelty, crave richness and satisfaction in the depth of things, simplicity to us are viewed as dull and uneventful.

Maintaining complexities are often seen as the main goal towards achieving success in life. That’s why a villager from a small town would often be encouraged to move to a big city, where more opportunities for a successful life are associated with.  

However, the issue with complexity is that it is unsustainable without effort.

For some, the complexities received and obtained were deemed worthwhile for consistent effort.

While, for many, such complexities are not necessarily what one looks towards to, leading to immense suffering as the amount of effort has no reason or purpose.



Although, complexities are deemed as the norm, living in simplicity, and appreciating the basis that everything we need is provided for and done without effort is just as superior as those striving towards complexities.


If what we need is simply a simple life, don’t be afraid to live 
it. Simplicity is the way to cherish and value what we are; we don’t have to force ourselves to live in the complexity norm, which leads to self-destruction and self-depreciation. The best gift of simplicity is to know that you have enough.



3 tips to make life easier


Declutter


Decluttering is the act to get rid of the unnecessary. Allow yourself to know what is useful and not and throw away the not useful. When you have less, it makes life simpler and easier to deal with.
Minimize


We often face many temptations of the complexities in the world. We have so many options, choices and new things. Every day, there is a newer and more interesting product out there. Stop & Think… If it is only that momentarily adrenaline that you are getting, do you really actually need that? Having more, means a more complicated life, minimize the things that we need to add to life by buying less.

Organize


Organizing helps one to know what we have, taking time to categorize and classify. It gives you a clearer path of how to do things; allows one to be more efficient. It creates a sense of structure and order, making life simpler and less complex.  

"Having the simplest simplicity, create Legends"