HeartSGBlogs: Cheerfulness

Cheerfulness contradicts with seniority and intelligence. 

Being bubbly, lively and constant radiations of energy are childlike behaviors, deemed to be lacking maturity and wisdom. 

 Cheerfulness may also come off as act that is faked, with the primary purpose of preventing aggression from others. It is deemed as a coping mechanism to lighten the intense or eliminate the threatening situation. 

Hence, we tend to avoid being cheerful or wary of how we portray our own cheerfulness. 

However, with these intentions of wary, are we not just hindering the value of cheerfulness?

Do not read too much into it and enjoy it is it is.

Cheerfulness is a feeling, a state, a virtue, a personality. It has the capacity to bring us out of the worst situations. It provides encouragement, motivation and passion to go on. It reduces stress not only for us but also for others. 

Cheerfulness can even be one’s ultimate life goal.

Cheerfulness can come and go easily, but should not just be a state; it should be an attitude and trait that maximizes the value of cheerfulness.

3 means of sustainable cheerfulness

Do things that get you into the state of Transcendence

Transcendence is a state when your sense of self fades away, and when you see things at a higher and deeper perspective, connecting yourself to something bigger picture, something more than the reality. It can be through doing a wide variety of activities, meditation, cooking, volunteering, exercising, and reading.

Figure your place of belonging

Belonging means being valued for who you are. The environment is totally in your hands. You can decide when, where, how, what, who. That place can be quiet/lively, alone/with others, doing nothing/engaging in activities.

Turn life into memories

Memories are things that we want to keep and retain. When life becomes our memory, we would want to make sure that it would be a happy one. Focus on how you can make every event become a memory that you want to cherish.

"Having the simplest cheerfulness, create Legends"

HeartSGBlogs: Independence

Don’t give men fish to eat, teach them how to fish.

This famous saying emphasizes on the importance of independence. This way of teaching nurtures independence that allows one to maximize their inner potential.

Independence is the act of not relying on others for one’s necessities.

Independence can be achieved and obtained in various ways, personal, emotional and financial.

It gives us something so important; a sense of self: Self-worth, self-value, and self-fulfillment. These ultimately initiate confidence, satisfaction and freedom. Nothing is greater than knowing that you are in control and you yourself have the power of choice.

This independence should not undermine the value of interdependence, but rather drive interdependence in a positive manner. It is possible to seek assistance from others by remaining independent. There should be a balance between the two, so that independence does not become your enemy but remain as a forever reliable ally.

Hence, these are three ways to encourage and develop independence but keep in mind that these actions should not hinder the value of interdependence as well.

3 ways to foster independence from within

Get to know yourself

The way to start relying on yourself is to figure out your own identity. It is only when you know yourself, then you can entrust yourself into your own hands. Start by doing a self-reflection.

Be mindful of your daily habits, routines and practices.

Keep Track of your moods, feelings and thoughts

Realize your strengths and weaknesses

Knowing yourself can also come from advice of others. Interdependence and independence can serve as complementary functions where more perspectives are given for you to decide who you really are deep within.

Become Assertive

This action allows you to respect yourself, your opinions, your judgements and logics. Becoming Assertive gives you the chance to become more confident within your own skin. These rewards will keep you motivated to be independent.

Say Yes when you feel like and No when you don’t

Take the courage to voice out your perspectives

Try not to use “I think” or “I might”, simply use the word “I”

Beware and take note of the possibility of hindering interdependency. If others have their own perceptions and opinions, be sure to respect it as well.  As important as it is to respect your own independence, it is also important to respect other’s independence as well.

Enjoy being alone

Usually, the society judges us when we are alone. However alone time is the time when we truly can get in touch with our own being and feel that sense of self we all need. You will realize that you can also be happy when you are alone. There is also an extra benefit that we don’t have to accommodate to the needs of others. Take up the challenge of going out by yourself.

Have a movie date with yourself

Go to a concert alone

Go to your favorite restaurant with yourself

Remember not to make it a habit. Social gatherings are important for the self as well. Only when we can control and make responsible decisions for the GOOD of ourselves, then we are able to be called independent. 

"Having the simplest independence, create Legends"

HeartSGBlogs:Resourcefulness

Life is indeed full of obstacles, failures and setbacks. I am sure that no one can get through life without having to face any challenges. 

 When we fail, why? People give reasons and blame it due to the lack of resources. No money, no time, no support, no contacts, not having a right leader, etc. However, the limitations of resources does not play a major contributing factor to our failures, it is instead our own lack of resourcefulness. 

Singapore is a clear example, with almost no natural resources, how is Singapore one’s of world most economical powerful country? How did Singapore overcome the issues of limited resources? 

It is when we have nothing, and surrounded by enemies that allows one to create opportunities and make it through tough times. This comes with the skill of resourcefulness. 

Resourcefulness is not the quantity that matters, but rather the quality. 

The most powerful resource is resourcefulness in itself. 

It is the ability to use the limited resources that you have and create something out of it. It is the ability to consider multiple angles and perspectives of the same resources, having the ability to make use of something that seemed to be a constraint. 

Resourcefulness is built upon emotional states, like persistence, creativity, adaptability, etc., and these are much more lasting. It gives one the capacity to get through life. It enables the commitment and dedication to conquer challenges, make dreams come true, and most importantly making life meaning and worthwhile.    

3 habits to cultivate resourcefulness

Do activities that allow you to think out of the box

Some examples include playing puzzles, Sudoku, word games, or even challenging yourself by having a Conversation WITHOUT Using the Letter “E”. This trains your creativity to see the same situation in different perspectives, forms and angles. It develops the innate capacity to not stick to the same set of solutions and thought processes. 

Make full use of your resources

Activities can include multi-tasking to ensure that you maximize the time that you have, the habit of decluttering to ensure that your space is not being taken up by the unnecessary, practicing the art of recycling to remind you that even a small piece of plastic still has its value. 

Always have a reason

Reasons are passions and commitments to actions; they are the key that drives you to build your own resources when you are pushed to the brim. Start by developing the habit of asking ‘why’ before you act rather than just purely doing the action. Question yourself in a way you have never. The more ‘why’ you ask, the more it trains your brain to think, and finally making your actions logical, dedicating motivation and passion to whatever you do. 

"Having the simplest resourcefulness, create Legends"

HeartSGBlogs:Kindness

Kindness is affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care, the beauties in our society.

Any act of KINDNESS has a PROFOUND impact.
It is a cure, a push to action, and most importantly, naturally CONTAGIOUS

Kindness is our medicine; it cures everything, from heartaches, breakups to headaches, sleeplessness, anxiety, anger, stress. 

It not only cures but motivates us to continue on, to survive despite every hardship in this world. It is the very reason why life existed. Every parent decides to have children because they want their next generation to experience the kindness that the world can offer. 

COME BACK TO REALITY!

Kindness is stupid, weak, it does not pay off, and it gets you nowhere!

Is this really true? Is being KIND that useless?

OR

Is it simply an excuse we give ourselves because it is difficult?

These thoughts come in when we succumb and cave in to ourselves, when we put our needs over others, or even acting kindly because of our own motives. 

The rewards of kindness are not lies; we just need to let nature be, allow simple, pure, and genuine kindness to be in control. Without many thoughts, that’s when true kindness can occur. 

3 ways to continue Kindness

Don’t Overthink

If you want to help, just help. Don’t let other thoughts distract that nature, ERASE “What would others say? What if I get in unnecessary trouble? What if the help becomes a hindrance?” IMMEDIATELY & JUST DO IT

Taking Care of Yourself  

Kindness comes from within, it is only when you are able to show it to yourself, then you are able to show it to others. Practice self-love. Treat yourself exactly the way you want to treat others and others to treat you. Watch your favorite movie; buy yourself your favorite food, rest when needed. 

Track kindness

Fuel the belief in kindness. Take time to reflect on your day, you’ll be more aware of the small gestures of kindness that others do and also without realizing you may be actually performing acts of kindness already. 

Questioning KINDNESS TODAY?

QUESTION NO MORE! 

"Having the simplest kindness, create Legends"