Respect is a positive feeling of admiration for a person, as well as having appreciation for the qualities of the one respected.
Respect is the main function that makes us feel safe in all social relationships that we have.
Hence, respect has been always something we are taught to show.
Respect one another, respect your elders, respect your parents, respect your teachers, respect the authority, etc.
If the act of showing respect is forced, its main purpose of sustaining human relationships disappears. Relationships will not only be short-lived, but also discomfort, anger or even resentment will be simmering in every little gesture or word done to fulfil the so called “respect”.
When does respect feels forced?
- When respect given is demanded based on societal standards and expectations rather than earned through commendable deeds.
Societal judgements and criticisms will be placed on others before getting to actually know the person. This makes it hard to get respect from others and show respect to others as we are unable to treat everyone with an equal level of respect.
The act of showing respect again becomes more conflicting and complicated when the person deserving of respect due to status does not exhibit qualities or behaviors that earns respect.
- When one do not have self-respect.
Respectful actions from such individuals can cause the one at the receiving end to be uneasy or irritated as it is viewed as overdone or too much.
Always giving and not receiving = constantly exhausted and trapped in the cycle of feeling not enough or unworthy.
3 Means for Authentic Respect
1.Treat others in the manner you want to be treated- Regardless of age, race, gender, status, etc…
Remember basic kindness.
Encourage others.
Stand firm in your convictions.
Play fair and smart.
Extend a helping hand.
Cause no harm.
Think before you speak.
2. Maintain your integrity- Remember to walk the talk while doing so.
3. Develop self-respect- Only when you can respect yourself, then you are able to respect others and gain respect from others.
"Having the simplest respect, create Legends"
