Gentleness
is the softness of manners, mildness of temper, sweetness of disposition, and
meekness.
Gentleness
has always been associated with being weak and fragile; hence this trait is
usually kept hidden.
People with
a gentle disposition have always been deemed as an easy prey for predators.
They are often associated with identities that no one wants, the “bullied”, the
“victim”, the “naïve”, etc.
We hide
this gentleness because we want to protect ourselves from the cruel world. We
were always told not to show our tears, our weaknesses, our scars because we
never know when it might be used as a deadly weapon by others to hurt us.
Showing a façade, of always showing
your strong side, your happy side, being self-confident
Building an armor, of being fierce,
domineering, being the bully, being the perpetrator
Are you really happy, do you have the confidence to maintain it, do
you feel yourself?
Although putting on a strong persona
allows you to guard yourself and protect yourself from dangers, it is only
ultimately a mask, and you will feel exhausted, sad, negative, depressed and
lost to maintain it.
Gentleness is the sources of
humanity the one that connects, sustains and makes you feel belonged, accepted
and loved. We all need it, and we should start a society that embraces
gentleness instead of hiding it. Join us in the mission to make the society a
gentler one.
3 acts of
gentleness
Being
gentle with yourself
Embrace your imperfections and focus
on your talents and strengths. Some simple
acts to be gentler with you include, giving yourself daily positive
encouragements and affirmations’, telling yourself it is alright to fail or
make mistakes or spending 5 minutes enjoying being alone with yourself.
Being
gentle with those surrounding you
Accept your loved ones for who they
are and forgive them in disagreements, conflicts or fights. Some simple acts to
learn to the gentler to those surrounding you include remaining calm and giving
in in times of arguments, showing more
concern by paying attention to the minor details, or being more patient.
Being
gentle to your community
Help and show appreciation to
strangers. Some simple acts of being gentler to your community include smiling
or greeting another, saying please or thank you when buying your morning coffee,
or sharing your table during the peak hour.
Gentleness cannot be developed
overnight, it may be hard at the beginning but it can be trained and learnt
over time. Practice makes perfect. The more gentle acts you do, you not only
have the grace of nurturing the softer side of yourself but to those around you
and the community as well.
Imagine a community where gentleness
is cherished upon. I am sure it will be a happier one, filled with laughter,
peace and joy.
"Having the simplest gentleness, create Legends"